Yesterday was my hubby’s birthday. He turned the big 29! A few nights ago we were talking about him going back to school and how we want to turn our lives around. Very similar to a blog I posted maybe a month back. I guess as you start to approach 30, you start to look at things differently. I’m 27, I turn 28 in November. It was very refreshing to hear him talk about where he wants us to be as a family and the goals we share. It’s been awhile since we’ve had those kind of talks…having young children will kinda force you to look at present instead of looking towards the future sometimes. But anyway, my baby is going to be going back to school and I’m so very proud of him. There were a few things in our convo that I wanted to point out. If you’re a reader, you probably know that I don’t blog about my husband…but these are just two things that stood out:
- He acknowledged and I guess, stated that he understands my frustrations when it comes to me and work and the work experience I’ve had. Just a brief background…when I was graduating highschool in 2000 the news reports were already stating that college graduates of that year were having a hard time finding jobs in their major due to the economic turn. Well as we all know, this economic turn has been going on for more than a decade now…so sucks for me and many of the friends I know that graduated after 2000, because most of us don’t have jobs in our desired field. So we got pregnant with Brianna in my last semester of college. Many of the jobs in my degree field wanted me to go away for training for months at a time, well I was 5 months preggo when I graduated, so that wasn’t really an option. Thankfully, I did get a good job at Sprint and the rest is history. Here I am, 27, just now getting my foot in the door at a financial institution, but for now I’m in customer service. So he was saying that he understands my frustration, because I went to school, I worked hard, and I got my degree. And here I am, 5 years out of school, making nowhere near the money I’m supposed to. I have no satisfaction in my job. And I’m nowhere near where we planned to be at this point in our lives. That was the first time I really heard him say that he understands and he’s sorry that this happened to me. Just that acknoledgement makes me feel good, you know? Because it’s one thing, to be working in a job that you know you’re better than this, but you don’t have the degree/education to get you into a better job. I’m the same thing, but I have the degree/education, I just drew the wrong straw, me and many of my friends.
- The other thing that he said, that really threw me for a loop…he was talking about Brianna going to school and how we want to have a house…and somewhere in there he said, we’re not having any more kids anytime soon, so we can save up….yeah, my mind stopped listening to what he was saying and paused on the “anytime soon” Erm…excuse me but, I thought we were done in that category! It took me a long time to come to grips with that, but apparently you have other thoughts??? So who knows? I guess that door has been slightly opened again? I asked him about it last night…he had talked to Brianna and was telling her how she was very very special, and even if we have another little girl, she will still be very very special to us…he says maybe in a few years, but definitely not now. He looks at it from an affordability aspect with having children. I look at is in can I go thru another 9 month hell, another c-section, another 2 years to drop the baby weight,…I guess we’ll have to see what God has in store for us…I don’t even want to think about it!